As we all know “Good friends are hard to find, harder to lose and impossible to forget” , most of us break our friendship with others due to several stupid reasons without thinking. A true friendship which lasts for a lifetime is the greatest achievement one could ever achieve. Dealing with the emotions of people is probably one of the toughest thing in this world and inspite of several differences and misunderstandings , maintaining a bond of friendship without harming one other is very important . After all , true happiness found in money or any other thing lasts only for couple of years , but the happiness that we experience with people lasts forever.
People become friends when their thoughts match , or when they like to spend time with each other and so on. Usually people who think in the same way get close in a faster way than those who are quite different from them. As days pass , they become more close and do not like anyone to come in between them . But , as places change, time changes we tend to make more friends and tend to get close with the new people . This kind of change makes the other person insecure and leaves one broken and disappointed as one thinks that he/she is losing his/her friend and one’s mind gets filled up with all kind of negative feelings such as envy, sadness, ego, and many more. With those thoughts, one does stupid things and that would lead them to hate each other forever.I would like to narrate a story of a girl who has actually ruined her friendship due to these negative feelings.
There were two girls Clara and Lara who were very close and would share everything with each other. They enjoyed each other’s company . After their schooling , they had to drift apart to different places for their further education. Yet , they kept in touch through phone ,email and other electronic media . They used to meet during vacations. Everything was good, but as Clara made new friends at her college she didn’t really speak with Lara much and would only talk once in two weeks . This kind of change in Clara has hurt Lara a lot, because she was her only friend and she felt lonely for many days. Lara could not take this anymore and hence she got a transfer letter form her college and joined Clara’s college. When she saw Clara having fun with her new friends, all these negative feelings like envy and jealousy has crept into her. She went near Clara and just shouted on her as to why did she change and why was she not talking to her like before and just slapped her and went away.This insult which has happened to Clara in front of so many people was unbearable and hence she started hating Lara for slapping her in front of her friends . She started avoiding her and this increased the distance and hatred between two of them. Lara had made a plan of getting close with Clara again by making her new friends hate her. Lara became close with those girls and with her plans and ways she somehow separated them with Clara. Clara was dumbstruck and was shocked as to why her friends were not talking with her .Lara now goes near Clara,consoles her and tells her that she will always be with her and tell her not to trust those girls. By her evil plans, she gets close to her friend again and never let her drift apart from her.
As days passed, she started feeling guilty for what she has done. She could not take that guilt and told her mom the whole incident . Lara’s mom never imagined that her daughter would do such a big mistake and counselled her that friendship doesn’t mean that they both must always stick together. Just as how our thoughts and priorities change , everyone’s priorities change. When Clara doesn’t give her much time, it doesn’t mean that Clara has forgot about her and didn’t care about her anymore. It only means that she has made her choice and that she will always remember you in her memories.No matter where we are, our friends wil always be with us in trouble and help us. If Clara enjoys being with other people, it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t enjoy being with Lara anymore. It’s just that that Clara has become busy and is making new friends to help her in her studies or for several reasons.Lara realised how foolish she was, and went back near Clara and apologised her and also apologised to Clara’s friends and never repeated such behaviour.Just because Lara did not get the attention she wanted, she could not control her emotions and went in a wrong direction to get back Clara’s attention. If Lara had thought with an open mind that she might be busy or that she isn’t finding much time to put an electronic message everyday due to her busy schedule and analysed Clara’s situation with a postive mind , then she could have avoided doing such a foolish thing.
Well , it was a very small story, but these kind of negative feelings like envy , greed and so on drives us to do many foolish things . When anyone of out friend gets a good score or becomes successful in life or earns a lot of money, we tend to become jealous and try to destroy our own friendship ,Also if our friend doesn’t treat us and does not give us much importance , we tend to do the same with them. Our brain is getting corrupted with these kind of thoughts and it wil lead us in doing many big mistakes such a murders too. When a person is feeling insecure or is jealous of other person, he is not able to accept that the other person is better than him/her. When a person is able to accepts others success and talent , he would consider it as an inspiration and these negative thoughts do not drive us then.One must try to control our emotions and never let the negative thoughts drive us. A good postive mind always keeps us happy and also helps us in maintaining the bonds of relations in a very good way.